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I think most everyone is familiar with the American Idol, Britain's Got Talent, So You Think You can Dance, or any of those other type shows. You know where people show up by the thousands, because someone, somewhere; friends, family, co workers, etc told them they had talent. And they believed them. And they believed in themselves.
Then they get there, and they're bad, or so very bad. Or they're not bad, just not good, chances are exceedinglhy slim they ever will be. No amount of trianing is going to make them good. By no means are they worthy of a place. There's no ticket to Hollywood, (or wherever) to make it to even the first round. These contestants are devestated, because they've been told they are good. Some, you can tell, have just given up, some swear to keep trying. But for what purpose?
So my question is: How do you know when friend and family and those that love you tell you you have talent, that you really do? And how do you know when they're just saying that because they love you and want you to be happy?
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Date: 2012-09-05 04:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-09-07 03:35 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-09-07 04:37 am (UTC)I've thought of seeing if there's any other critique groups out there, they seem to come and go with not a lot of lastingness to them. At the same time, it's both thrilling and horrifying to think of going through that again.
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Date: 2012-09-07 01:01 am (UTC)When it comes to other people who are unsure, I'd advise them to seek opinions outside of their family and friends. Like, total strangers. I love the internet for that. We write fic, we post it, and people either say it's good, say it's crap, or don't say anything at all. (What I don't love about it is the sense of entitlement people have developed where constructive criticism is seen as bitchy flaming. It's to the point where I don't comment on something unless I loved it because if I didn't and I want to say something helpful, I'm worried I'll have my head torn off. :\)
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Date: 2012-09-07 04:44 am (UTC)That maybe why, in my brain, when no one answers the question or changes the subject or focuses on some obcure part, they are in essence saying "you suck", but they just aren't saying it.
Interesting thing about the constuctive criticism being seen as flaming. Honestly there arew times I'd throw a party if I got anything even flames, at least i'd know it was read and it struck a chord good or bad with someone. Being ignored is not fun.
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Date: 2012-09-07 08:23 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-09-09 12:48 pm (UTC)Agreed. Now if I can only remain strong enough to ask the right people, and find people who will be willing to do this thing.