It's funny how alarming things can be when you're new. I was kind of scared of commenting when I first started out in fandom.

No, the white out is just a way of giving choices. Sometimes it hides warning for fluff.

Sigh, yes. Because a relationship between two consenting adult is just like abusing a minor. Arseholes.

Hope the links are helpful. We tried to get a fairly balanced selection to represent the full argument. :o)