I've had a bit of a back-and-forth with one of my friends/betas on the warn/no warning issue, just the other day.
While it has never bothered me, I get that there are a surprising (to me) number of people who feel they absolutely need to be warned for bottom/top positions. I don't personally feel the position someone takes sexually has anything at all to do with their personality.
But.
I've taken to using a Warnings/Contains line in my fic header. Because I've long-since realised that what might scare one person away might very well entice another (for instance, I wrote for a fest where non-con was a common theme, and often required by the prompts). After the discussion with my beta, where I listed "bottoming from the top" in the same warnings/contains line as who was actually the top and bottom, we had a bit of a debate as to what qualified for that field.
I eventually took out the 'bottoming from the top' mention, and stated 'no real warnings (but bottom!character, if you're concerned with that sort of thing)'. I do know one person (not in this fandom) who does mind the BftT scenario, but I suppose it's not a common squick.
TL;DR
Basically, I'm torn. I'm not triggered by anything (that I'm aware of), and my list of squicks at this point is fairly small and constantly shrinking. But I have close friends who are triggered by things, some of which I write about, so I try to include. But on the other hand... What to do about things that are potentially triggery, but are also plot twists and such?
Honestly, I think I might just scrap "warnings/contains" for "contains" from this point on. But... not slash/het/femmeslash, because that should be in the pairings line (which is also in my post title), and I in no way think any of those should be "warned" for. Exception being on my masterlist, which is multi-fandom--so far, femmeslash is mentioned, but only because one of the characters has a name that is not immediately clear as to gender of the character).
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While it has never bothered me, I get that there are a surprising (to me) number of people who feel they absolutely need to be warned for bottom/top positions. I don't personally feel the position someone takes sexually has anything at all to do with their personality.
But.
I've taken to using a Warnings/Contains line in my fic header. Because I've long-since realised that what might scare one person away might very well entice another (for instance, I wrote for a fest where non-con was a common theme, and often required by the prompts). After the discussion with my beta, where I listed "bottoming from the top" in the same warnings/contains line as who was actually the top and bottom, we had a bit of a debate as to what qualified for that field.
I eventually took out the 'bottoming from the top' mention, and stated 'no real warnings (but bottom!character, if you're concerned with that sort of thing)'. I do know one person (not in this fandom) who does mind the BftT scenario, but I suppose it's not a common squick.
TL;DR
Basically, I'm torn. I'm not triggered by anything (that I'm aware of), and my list of squicks at this point is fairly small and constantly shrinking. But I have close friends who are triggered by things, some of which I write about, so I try to include. But on the other hand... What to do about things that are potentially triggery, but are also plot twists and such?
Honestly, I think I might just scrap "warnings/contains" for "contains" from this point on. But... not slash/het/femmeslash, because that should be in the pairings line (which is also in my post title), and I in no way think any of those should be "warned" for. Exception being on my masterlist, which is multi-fandom--so far, femmeslash is mentioned, but only because one of the characters has a name that is not immediately clear as to gender of the character).